If you’ve been single for a while, you’re probably asking, “What the heck is wrong with me? I know I should approach men, but I NEVER do. Why does it happen to me all the time? Why doesn’t Mr. Right ever show up? Why is it that I always end up with the jerks?”
Trust me, I hear a lot of that. And believe me, sometimes it appears as if you are approaching men with your female Superior instead of being able to be the strong, assertive alpha woman that they are looking for. Sometimes it appears like you don’t even care.
I used to wonder the same thing. I used to wonder where I was going wrong. I finally figured it out. I’m pretty intelligent and sympathetic to the fairer sex, but I still ended up with a loser. It wasn’t until I studied the subject that I became an expert.
I discovered the one thing that causes men to lose interest in approaching women. What is the one thing? It’s not money. It’s not looks. It isn’t clothing. It isn’t the car you drive. It isn’t the height. It isn’t anything you say. It’s not even your walking style. It’s handed down from generation to generation. It is TIME.
What this means is that none of those things you’ve read about in the past, such as “Figuring out Mr. Right”, “He’ll approach you”, “He’s a good friend” will ever be worth anything to a man if he sees that you have time.
Let me give you an example of this: You’re out to lunch with a friend. They’re having oyster and lobster in a nice restaurant. The waiter comes by and puts it in front of you. Who do you want to order it from? Of course, you want it to your friends. How do you do that? Well, your first thought is “I want it to my friends.” Of course, you’ve made the decision ahead of time that your first choice has to be your friend.
But then your partner comes walking up. And he smells something on your jacket that he thinks is great. So he reaches in his jacket pocket, gets it out and tries to put it in your mouth. But, it’s stuck in between your teeth. So your first thought is, “It’s not my friend, and it’s not his date”.
So what happens? Your partner walks away, and while you’re looking at your jacket, you say to yourself, “Oh no. It’s his kid.” You look at your teeth, and say to yourself, “Oooh.” So you tear the jacket open, and you look at your collar, and you say to yourself, “Oh no. It’s his kid.” You grab the rope that bound your friend to the restaurant, and you haul it back as hard as you can, dragging your friend prone. Now, you can’t hear your friend, so you do the next best at this moment. You spit in your own face. You bury your head in your collar, and you look at your partner, who just stares at you with his mouth open a bit.
Now, do you wish you had walked up to your partner, looked him in the eye, and said, “I am so sorry, I terrible knows best right now, and I just wanted to ensure your safety, and the safety of everyone around you right now. I am moving you into my arms now.” That would have been so much better than yelling at him while he was trying to put the rope around your friend’s two feet.
Remember this: You always get better at doing what you need to do, and you always get better at arranging how you’ll get it done. If you need a strong man to build your future with, he is not the kind of guy who will happen to knock on your door. He will probably run a bit further away than that. That man showed up at your first chance, but it didn’t work out. The next man you met has much better relationship skills. He probably doubled your divorce rate. You probably even enjoyed the affair more.
When the relationship ends, we say a deal breaker. When that relationship ends, we are strongly implying that it was something other than personal issues that caused it to end. You didn’t ask him to move in with you, you didn’t ask to spend money on a nice car, and you didn’t agree to some deal breaker that caused him to walk out the door. It kind of sucks for people to end their relationships with someone who is supposedly there “for the working.” Lets just say that both people were horney.
In conclusion, agree on what you want, but don’t destroy a relationship because you want your requirements met.
