How is it that you can bend your man to your way of thinking but you can’t seem to change his way of thinking? Is it baffling to you that you can’t find a compromise in your relationship but you expect him to change his way of thinking?
Giving and getting Space
If what made you comfortable in the beginning of your relationship is giving him space and letting him have time for himself, then it will only be hindering your relationship’s growth if you cut him off from that. The best thing to do is to let him have the amount of time he needs by giving him his needs and then letting him have some time to himself.
Be strong enough to allow the change to happen naturally. Hiding won’t work and neither will changing the lifestyle that makes you happy. If change becomes difficult, let him tell you how he would like things to be. You can then evaluate whether you can accommodate his changes.
The this can be flattering to think that quite often your actions can affect how your partner thinks and feels about you. It can make a man want to both be with you and be changed by your suggestions. On the other hand, if you push to make some changes to accommodate him, it might even make him more reluctant to making them changes.Overcommunicating
unnecessarily aggressive actions such as Fine Pointing, accusations, ultimatums, temper tantrums and separating from your partner can make a man feel scared. Avoid over communicating, demanding as this is an instant turn-off and trying to convince him of your point. What is more favorable to improve your relationship is subtlety.
Maintain some mystery by providing him the comfort to let loose some details about yourself. By showing some understanding and drawing them out slowly, in a healthy manner, you can entice him to let out some private information about you.
Avoid the use of the word “If”. While you can agree to disagree about a few things, use the word “or” to express your alternative. Same word, different word. You must make your man understand that you are open to his suggestions but you prefer him only when he is open about his.
Avoid the focus of the word “right”. There are many ambitious people in this world. Let him realize your ambition in a way that does not burn our regret or resentment.
Be a good Listening Friend
Being a good listener is a sign of caring. Listening is an art, very art, and you learn these skills in life, so why not make it count in your relationship?
When he speaks, examine and evaluate his thoughts, desires, and say what’s on your mind. Be patient, kind, supportive, and compassionate while he speaks.
Refrain from making the mistake of censoring his ideas or feelings. censoring will make him feel that you already don’t agree, and he will become discouraged and decide to leave.
Be respectful of his fears and opinions. understand that he has a right to his views, so don’t impose your views on him if you completely disagree. treat him with respect even if his views may be different from yours
Respect his space, not his income. If he pays the bill, accept it and talk about the nature of money and the importance of finances. Do not hesitate to ask if you are being overcharged for the service provided and some Ideas about how to switch your dating from fun to love will come as a result of this discussion.
Figure out his method of getting to know you. enjoy activities that he finds fun, and recognize and respect the fact that he actually enjoys talking about his hobbies and finding pleasure in the company of his friends and family.
Consider his methods of how he treats you. Does he compliment and praise you? Do you feel that you like being with him and he does not make an attempt to mention the things he finds interesting about you, or do you like being with him and he finds you boring and not sexually attractive. If it is the latter, you two need to develop someselection CIAricks.
sequel, association, or conditioning.
Associate together as you did in childhood. Go to where he goes, listen to the stories of these people who know him best, and try to build a picture of his associates and how they met. After you have visited together at some social events, try toYoungbuckets of each other and notice his reaction. Was he happy, sad, angry, shy, or maybe as relaxed as can be and somewhat self-assured? Those who can laugh at themselves are those who can expect others to laugh at them too. Did you make a good impression as you took the opportunities to learn about each other? What seasons August through September Bring the thought of each other.
Whatever you do, DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY!
