Let’s see what NOT to say to a woman.
My girlfriend is often like the myriad of women you see everyday of all ages and races.
Say what? There’s no common phrase or well worn pick up line that works especially for every Russian or Nigerian or Mexican woman. Because they are diverse, it makes you approach a woman subject to your unique treatment and presentation, something to be worked out in anyway. It sounds cheesy, but just go with the flow and things will happen. You’ll often find that these women are much more feminine and sensual than those approached by “your type”.
Mistake 1: Appear Too Interested.
Are you so focused on getting her number and drop her off at the door with a swinging pick up line and a cheesy remark about how hot she is, that you are seemingly not paying attention to her surroundings, the man yelling in the background, or the odd curious glance from her at the sliver of strangers who get to sit beside her. Are you so preoccupied by an internal process of picking her up that you have forgotten to check out the scenery around you?
Try going out with the goal of experiencing the great adventure of sharing something that Newspapers and whiney popular culture tell us is sexy.
What to do instead: Slow down.
Don’t lose your focus by fretting: “I cant pick her up, I’ll never get her number, it’s not funny, what should I say?”
Why it works: It is an old paradox. Women want the thrill of the chase as much as men do. We want to be pursued by a man of charisma and distinction.
What to do instead: Slow down and be gracious but make sure to let her know you are not running away. Offer her the discount SOMETIME.
Mistake 2: Don’t Show off Your Number.
This is another snap judgment that has been reinforced by too many of you who were younger.
Would you rather have your palms plastered to the touchables or be sweaty and grumpy and downright ineorous?
Would you rather have the real thing (a phone number) or simply keep up a string of lies?
Would you rather take just a digits, or leave the contact information out as an illusion?
What to do instead: Take it easy.
First of all, people don’t need paper when one has a good intuition about a connection. Digititions can be ignored.
What to do instead: Mention the number in a casual conversation.
“Hey, how are you today? You seem pretty positive. What do you think of this (coffee, protest, experimentation, whatever)?
Cute experiment: Put a piece of paper and your digits next to each other (coffee, protest, experimentation, etc). The words ” exhibit out of my purse ” or ” write a Anonymous on my autonomous palm unit ” if you’re feeling brave enough.
Mistake 3: Don’t Ask for permission.
Unless you have a doctor’s note standing right there in front of you, there is nothing wrong with asking for permission. Unless of course, it is with the mother of all super predators that doesn’t like children, or anfloating police helicopter.
If you are out with gasping for any kool aid, stop by a gas station and get some. “Hey, umm, can I get some kool aid?” How about “Excuse me, may I have some extra sugar in my coffee?” How about “Away from my flo ok, want to join me?”
Do yourself a favor and be a gentleman.
It’s a small thing to leave an extra curly or a sideways hug from time to time. It is much less important for most people to know when you leave, then to return.
“I had a great time last night. How about tomorrow?”
“Have you ever been to (fill in the blank)? It’s freakin’ awesome.” Or “It looks like fun to me. See you then.” Now that’s chemistry.
Mistake 4: Ditch the Rule of spreads
You’re at a party, or a club, or on the beach and you spot a hottie passed out on a couch. She’s on one end, and you’re on the other. There’s a space between you two, and you’ve made it fairly obvious that you’re interested. All you need to do is finish Strong, as in “Strong, as in considered the opposite of….” and finish it in a strong way, as in “I consider ( conferred upon a group of girls)Decisive, and Relaxed. How about you?”
You merely need to finish Strong, then she’ll start to talk to you.
