These are the four ultimate characteristics every woman secretly (or secretly doesn’t) desires in a man. Do you have them? I didn’t think so.
What I’m talking about is CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is the most attractive attribute you can have to a woman. A woman wants to be secure in the knowledge that her man will definitely reciprocate her lack of confidence by making her feel safe and secure. She wants to be reminded that she’s great and a great catch. Able to stand up to her own, regardless of someone’s opinion. A woman needs to believe that her man will support her, as she is. Not because a woman is weak, she’s not, she’s just sensitive. She needs someone be strong for her.
She wants him to be supportive of her, yet decisive. So, when someone says that you “don’t agree” with each other about something, she’s not saying she wants to continue to grow in opposing views. That would be Crazy followed by overly needy and not caring about your partner’s views. She truly just needs to feel accepted.
Chemistry is a funny thing, it happens every day. I mean, if you think about it, it’s just what you want in a relationship, BUT for some women it’s just such a surprising discovery.
After having been married 20 years, my husband and I realized that there was “missing a lot of good stuff” in our relationship. It was good at the time because we could all do lots of things together. But several years down the line, we started to have emotional issues. Our sex life was great! We were still together.
What happened?
I was tired of being lonely, not having someone to call and not doing anything to make myself happy. I finally realized that the reason I was not happy in my marriage was because chemistry and emotional intimacy just wasn’t “there”.
So, what I did was figure out what was missing. I realized that the three most important things I needed to find in a relationship were (1) a good, emotional relationship with my husband, (2) a good, emotional and intimate relationship with myself and (3) a good, emotional relationship with my friends and family. The missing feature was communication. So, as a couple, we improved with all three of the aforementioned features (emotionally, honestly and in my own world and with my friends and family), reached out and completed the list for each feature, and created our marriage plan!
We went though the motions of getting married, holding hands, walking down the aisle and into our own families. We went to all the movies, had a home made dinner and a night in. We went on the town. We went to every event, function, wedding, christening, birthday and even a niece’s graduation and Christmas party! We did it all….with NO communication and NO clear, open dialogue about what was going on inside. We did not discuss our sex lives, our communication, our “diary” or our feelings about STOPPING the sex and our desire to totally open up and develop a new way of being intimate with each other! No, we realized that this was a great time to grow and learn and learn some great lessons about ourselves and life.
After decorating the house, anxious to please ourselves (emotionally and physically), we went to our first Christmas together. Even though it was a beautiful and perfect moment, it was another time I felt like I ran myself ragged. I was barely getting past the planning, excited thoughts of what to give, how to give and what to get out of the holidays with my husband. Instead, all I was thinking about was what I could give to help him let go of his fears. You see, they come home and visit the family every holiday, have a family dinner, exchange gifts and cards and an overactive conscience is what they are getting fed with. My husband, not wanting to sit back and be embarrassed by the crowd around us, left and came back and bragged to our mother that he had done the right thing and left home before going to school to be the new teacher. Well, the crowd, sitting back, were getting restless. They started leaving the party around 8pm. Christmas dinner was almost ready to serve and they left the whole party with all of their gifts. My husband, being new to the area he had not seen so many of his friends and family in so long, brought several people home to stay. He would stay for a couple of hours to help his mother put the gifts in the chest, after which he would go home and roommate would come and take everything out. In the end, what he meant the most wasroach. As his roommate walked away, my husband looked at him and said, “She is a keeper.”
