Are you a shy single man? Are you looking for a date?
Good, then you found my post! I’m going to be sharing with you some great dating tips for shy men in this post.
The best way I can think to title this post is: Give Your Shyness A Boost! Yes, that’s right. Tease yourself a little. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to see yourself as a shy, little guy. See what a difference it can make. Did you know that 50% of men over 40 that say they never met a woman because they’re shy are actually afraid of talking to women? I know – I’ve been there.
What If You’re a Bad Fit?
My first point is this: if you’re a shy, over 40 guy and you’re thinking about online dating, then go ahead and give online dating a try. What you need to do is make sure that you’re a “good fit” for the online dating site you will be signing up for.
It’s also important that you make sure that you are comfortable with the physical locations you will be choosing when you make these choices.
What Do Your Friends Say?
Before I explain the first tip, I think it’s critical to mention just what your friends might say about this. Ask the people that you trust to tell you about the sort of online dating experience that they have had. You do not have to talk to them. I just want to emphasize that point. What you and your friends have said could very well be what pushed you into this situation. So, based on what they tell you, make sure you are comfortable with the choices you’re making.
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Do You Know the Full Details?
And with that out of the way, here’s the first tip. Start with what you know about yourself. If you are 6’1″ with brown hair, then your friends will likely tell you that you are a short guy. And if you are a guy whose very good looking, then you may have a lot of girl on your mind. But the thing about dating is that you will only be picking up on half the pool so even though you may have a ton of girls to choose from, you will also learn that some girls just aren’t going to be a good fit for you.
This is where the “ass only person involved” comes into play. Let your friend involved know what the worst and most common responses that they get from women when they suggest to them to sign up for an online dating site are. This way, they’ll know what you will be taking home from the many dates that you’ll be going on over the next few months.
If they don’t mention the bad things that come up when you pick out your dates, then this just means that you haven’t met any good dating prospects yet. Just skip them. And if your friend does end you off, then just know that the reason that they pick out the most incompatible dates is because you just haven’t met anyone good yet. Take the blinders off, relax and don’t beat yourself up for it. Remember, there are millions of single people out there, even on the dating sites!
Now for the second tip. If you go out on a date with someone and you get to know that you really connect on a deep level, then what you do is to make sure that the only things you talk about are the good things that you have in your life. There is nothing wrong with talking about your Kids, Children, Family, Positive Relationships, Positive Past Relationships, etc., but you should do that after you discover that there is no basis for starting a relationship. Otherwise, the first few dates are just a waste of time.
Another tactic is to change the setting completely. Pick a non-UDK coffee shop that is in a mall, or in the middle of town, or in a location where people are in a hurry. Not in a place where there is a crisp view of the downtown. There aren’t many significant events going on, so you can find out how much you really have in common with the person and things will be less awkward.
And this is the most important tip of all. Forget trying to chat up every girl that you meet. Chat up one girl at a time and see where that takes you. After a few weeks, you will find yourself allotting more time with some people than others. And that’s when you know you are committed to one person and will start looking at other people less frequently. You have commitment to the outcome, not to the girl! And you are much less likely to make a fool out of yourself. Women are weird like that.
