Have you ever gone out for a weekend and seen some sexy lady with someboy on her arm?
Bingo! That was me last weekend. Unfortunately my girlfriend was having problems with her relationship and it looked like it might not get off the ground.
I don’t know how it happened that we ended up where we were… but I was pretty sure I didn’t do anything wrong.
We got back to my place, and needless to say, I got it on.
Obviously, what we did together was wrong, but not illegal, morally speaking, because it was my decision to end things.
Would it be wrong to have sex if you two were just “sexing?”
I don’t know. That’s a tough one to really answer.
I guess my answer would be, “Depends on the couple.”
That seems to be the way it is written. “The couple”being the couple is supposed to act together, live together and marry each other.
So… does it matter who initiates the sex? Yes. Or least I should say, “It depends on the couple, and their Intentions.”
I guess the proper answer is, “It depends on the couple, and their Intentions.”
But, if you haven’t done anything wrong and both of you are having sex with each other, and one of you is just okay with it and thinks it’s cool, and the other one’s very angry and upset because he didn’t get what he wants, it may be best to stop sleeping with that person.
It may be best if the person who you’re sleeping with is someone that you’re friends with.
Why?
There are a few reasons.
1. If you’re a male, there’s an instinctive pull on you to sleep with the girl who you’re attracted to.mirroring what might be happening to a woman.
2. The woman might be a stranger. If you had sex with a stranger, notaking you? Well, she’s not taking your nature into account and it might be harder to “recipe” what she’s saying.
3. The lady could be a girlfriend, and a hot girlfriend at that!
If you’re a dude, though, chances are, you might want to do this for her: Take her out for some fun at a motel, pull up in a drive, get out of the car and try to have some fun.
Don’t expect more than that! Keep this in mind. Sex on a first date can spoil you like crazy. It can reflect badly on you.
Since we’re men, we can “pray” all we want, but when we do lay hands on a lady, we tend to do more than just kiss her, talk to her, hold her hand, or stroke her hair.
These things are marvelous, but there are times in our lives where we must learn to control ourselves and football, and play “role”.
What do I mean? Well, if you’re going to play a role, it has to be that of a man who, though attracted to a female, is not sexually interested in her.
That could be an extreme example, and you never want to overdo it if it’s not necessary, but if you try to be something you’re not, it will bear no fruit, because the other person will see right through it.
In other words, don’t try to use your intellect or your deep psychological analysis or “L1 Regularity” or whatever name you want to label it.
You do that stuff because you want to get sex, right? There’s no happiness in that.
Let me give you a real world example that illustrates your point. Take a friend and family member and try to analyze things from their perspective.
You ask them how they think you are different from other people. They tell you, they see you as a nice person who is friendly, who share affection and want everybody’s happiness, etc…
Now, think about this. During an argument with your mate, perhaps a fight, you argue the other person’s viewpoint. You shove your views in their faces, you ignore their points of view, while maintaining a strong point of view.
Now, the above seems correct. Everybody thinks this person is a nice, friendly person, right?
What’s wrong with that? Everybody is friendly and warm right? So this argument seems to fly in the face of what everybody thinks.
The problem is that you’re trying really hard to be nice, not being yourself, not being true to yourself.
That’s why it doesn’t work.
However, it’s another thing that gets in the way of you getting what you want.
Here’s what I mean.
