20 Things Never to Say on a First Date

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Here are 20 things never to say on a first date. We all know some things we should never talk about on a first date and some things we should always say.

1. The weather. Never talk about the weather especially if it’s sunny and warm. Well it’s gotten late, we have to be somewhere, saying the weather is sunny and warm makes me feel uncomfortable. Also would you not want your date to be uncomfortable, wondering where they are taking you which makes you more uncomfortable.

2. Money. We all know that you don’t want to hear about how much your tip amount is. No one wants to talk about money unless you were introduced to each other. However be comfortable and don’t freak out if your date doesn’t express a thing in relation to money.

3. Eating habits. How you eat reveals something about you, don’t eat like a pig or talk about your ex-boyfriends The way you eat could be a tip off in the sense of how you treat your future family. We all know not to talk about food on a first date as nobody wants to hear about the food you had in the past. So eat like a human being and learn about his or her eating habits.

4. Eating habits (2). If your date orders just one appetizer, you should stay clear of that food until you get to know your date better and they order something else. Your going to quickly learn the color of their table cloths and if black, don’t try and match the color of the table cloth with your table cloth. You don’t want to run the risk of your date putting you on the suspect list. I always advise that you never meet for a meal on a first date and I always include this no- EARLYDATES matter in almost all of my first dating EMERGENCY PLANGRESSES.

5. Lowers. Never mention a previous break up or dating at all. You want your date to focus on you, and nobody else.

6. Sex. please leave your sexual preferences at home and stick to general conversation about hanging out as a group and just getting to know one another as friends.

7. About yourself. Of course you want to impress him or her but don’t talk about how strongly you think you will impress them or how much of a trouble you are taking to impress them. I once heard a lady ask a date, “What do I do at work? Nothing! I WORKED for nothing!” He was surprised she was even asking that question.

8. Bringing up past relationships. why share people’s past relationships. let them tell about their previous relationships. That is what friends do. Friends don’t usually spend time talking about their past relationships. They will either tell stories that reveal how they have failed in other relationships, or relate funny stories about the ugly girlfriend they had. Wait on the talking for yours, its beside the point, and it shouldn’t be too important.

9. Ladies that’s not what I was talking about. If ladies were to go on a date with a man they are not married to, I would not want to hear about his ex’s.

10. Let’s talk about sex. For me, sex is death, and like I said before, the only time I feel like screaming is when I am being sexually harassed. In this culture we have known about HIV and the rejection one must fear for speaking about sex (even if you are a nun), yet not one mention of condom sizes ( Serpent bites), or any other STD’s. How does one allow one to be sexually responsible while out on the dating circuit with people whom they may only have cause toorned to death?

I believe STD’s should be added to the basic knowledge list for both men and ladies, and replacing the fear of HIV rejection with the knowledge of safe sex.

I feel if one wishes to make use of the online dating sites, they would do well to educate themselves on their needs and requirements in regard to accepting responses from people. Hopefully some of this information would transcend to men here so that a disagreement doesn’t destroy a potentially good relationship. Safety first!

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