Breaking up is definitely something that lots of gents do not want to deal with. As manly as they may be, they can be rather too emotional and sensitive at times. In the event you’ve recently gone through a very intense argument with a girlfriend, and now believe that you two should take a break from your relationship for some time, then there are certain things that you will need to do in order to do it.
While it is not possible to plead your case over with your girlfriend, there are certain measures that you can take in order to convince her to take you back. In some cases, displaying your personal power and getting physical with her may be the ensuing course of action. If you do not want to jump back in, try to revive your relationship and keep your girlfriend with you. If she’s the right girl for you, she’ll respect your decision.
If your break up is a recent one, and you’ve been trying to revive your relationship and can barely build up enough courage to do so, then you should do your best to not beg or force her. Doing these things won’t help you out, and you’ll only make things worse. You may think she’s completely over you because even if she isn’t, the relationship probably isn’t worth saving anyway. She will only think you want to get back at her, though.ooking at her when she’s hurt or upset. If you can’t prove that to her, you shouldn’t even try.Take it easy. Girls are tricky and unless you were given a 21-day spa stay, you won’t have the full story. It takes a certain type of girl to forgive a guy who dumped her. If you doubt yourself and feel like you’ll never get a second chance, then think of this article as your handyman breaking the window of opportunity. There are four elements that must be followed in order to get your ex girlfriend back:
1. Rereading Yourself
Think about yourself. Are you in a place where you are self-focused? Are you working on things right now, but not at the same place which you want to show to your ex girlfriend? Would you say that you understand why she broke up with you? Talking to yourself and changing things will not guarantee an improvement in your relationship. You will need to tackle the issues head on. Take some time and really think about what caused the past to burn a way. If you are following these tips, then you are in a better place to approach your ex and discuss things properly.
2. Set Strategies
Be prepared. Without a doubt, some sayings illustrate when to go for the kill. ‘I am us, and not a macho gentlemen’ hit at an ex-lover is one of those times. It is OK to set a standard to live up to but going at full steam is not a good way to get back your girlfriend. She might have expected that but not you, and that could be a source of major problems. What this means is that think about what caused the past problems that led to this outburst. Were you always at her beck and call? Did you always act apparition around completedivedoesn’t work out well for you? Were those issues which were never addressed at an earlier stage due to fear of losing her?
If any of these situations describe you, now is the time to evaluate yourself. Acknowledge the problems with your relationship then work your way towards addressing them. If the issues are ones you can no longer solve by yourself, seek help from others. A couple of friends may be willing to give you advice and may be able to offer you some encouragement. If nothing works, then consider looking for a dating coach and/or a personal development master to help you implement new strategies. All options are available to you. The most important thing is that you are willing to work on your issues.
3. What is she expecting?
Well, in her mind, there are certain things which you will do, or say, in certain situations which may make her see things the way she wants them. It’s like the fairytale of the queen bee which tells the little girl that if she realizes that she can make a bee-hive, she will gather her sisters and reignite the hive and live happily ever after. However, things are not always as tidy as it would be if you were to re-read your story. If you know that your girl always wants you to fulfill certain roles, you may want to think twice before completely ignoring these sidelines. Just think, there may not always be a happy ending for your love life, but at least you will not have to sweat over it. If a simple ‘Oh ok’ or a shy smile can communicate the desire for you to always be careful, you may want to avoid sending your boot across her foot.