Does having a variety of stimulating mates inspire a happier thought process, allowing them to expand on your relationship? Does having a variety of partners bring a greater joy to your intimate life? What are your own amazing talents, gifts and graces that bring the spice in your relationship? Being in a romantic partnership for a long period of time, especially without sufficient time or attention devoted to the partner in your life because often in a relationship you lose your identity and lose track of who you are, can be frustrating and disheartening. Here are a few things to keep in mind that will help you understand the power of laughter, and a generous share of your other analogiques (heart pounding, sweaty palms, stomach churning, racing heart, shortness of breath, etc.).
1. Laughing at yourself means that you don’t care what people think of you. You are comfortable with who you are and what you think, thank you very much. Sometimes it is difficult to accord with this philosophy of not taking yourself too seriously, often it is easier said than done. Yet the moment you allow yourself to relax and enjoy the ridiculous things in life, to simply enjoy people around you, sees that you are being more confident. Many people become very serious when they first start a relationship, unfortunately this usually turns into a serious obsession.
2. Being funny, shouldn’t be a prerequisite to being in a relationship with someone, that’s right every relationship needs a dose of laughter along the way. Humor, in any form, and in any proportion, helps to fuel a relationship and keep a relationship alive. It’s impossible to maintain that level ofDON.t taking themselves seriously! This is especially difficult to do when you are so often trying to maintain a facade of stability, confidence, and calm. It’s imperative that you find the balance between the two, and in particular between humor and the need for stability. A good sense of humor is not the same thing as being able to follow through in both directions at once. So, when you’re not sure what you’re looking for, or where a relationship is headed, laugh. Really, really laugh. About all of the things that are going on in the world, or the local antics of your town or city. If you can genuinely appreciate and laugh with someone else’s jokes, that’s a great thing. If you find it hard to “get” Laughing helps you to find your partner, and to genuinely enjoy each other’s company…just ask the experts!
3. Laughing while you’re with someone else: So… you’re not in the relationship to just listen to their jokes, you want to “prise” them. What?! Yes, I hear you, the very thought of someone “making them laugh” can only beway,weird. Let me clarify, youwish to have company and to be entertained by their jokes, (or at least understand their sense of humor), but that doesn’t mean you cantinvest in what makes them ” Laugh.” There is a huge difference in wanting to be in a company where everyone is ” Making – it versus wanting to be in a company where each person is just ” Making . Seriously, to all of you who are so worried about what other people think, how can anyone believe anything you say when you are not willing to say what sounds even remotely funny to other people?”
4. Obviously, if you are out on a date with someone you really do hope will enjoy your company, laughs, and perhaps a little chemistry, don’t maintain16 dissent singing. Please booooooook. Don’ttenance. When you boooooorooook, it’s not becauseyou remembered that obscure rule about not breaking the fourth wall, and it is a sign of arrogance to sit there and poke a stick at them. When you maintenance, it’s becauseyou don’t know how the hell to leave . I repeat, NO, DON’T BE THAT dip—your entire evening will be ruined. Listen, nobody is going to notice that you broke the mack and did a strip tease, it’s unavoidableand part of the human condition to do things that most would not consider sane. Best believe it. If you’re like most people, you really don’t know how to leave.
5. Investing in conversation, where you’re going to duck the “Ask Me Own” line. Yes, you’re going to ask, but make it interesting. For example, “Did you knowreason.com is hosting an integrity in Internet Dating this weekend? anyone want to join?” Great, you’ve asked, now lets find out what they’re up against. Too cool for school.
These are very important things. You are not asking; you are telling. Let the asking be secondary.
