Did you hook up with a really great guy, but you didn’t know how to get past his resistanceAnother man, just like you, felt the strong attraction to you that you had initially. He and you hooked up and started dating. He showed you a lot of attention and affection, and you seemed to be really clicking. Then, all of a sudden, he seemed to cold off the table. He stopped calling you, and seemingly seemed no longer interested.
When a man stops calling you or chasing you, he may be screening you out, and not showing the affection he once gave you. Deal breakers occur when a man feels overwhelmed, or feels that the woman he’s with isn’t treating him in the way he needs to be treated. He’ll suddenly have a resistance to the way you’re treating him. He may find that difficult to get over, and pull away and resist throughout the relationship.
“What did I do wrong?” This is what millions of women say to themselves as a result of their men pulling away or resisting affection. The thing is, you didn’t do anything wrong. He was likely pressuring himself into the relationship and that made you feel uncomfortable, in regards to his feelings for you. He may have been pressuring you to have sex, and when you felt that you weren’t heeding to his pressure, you started complaining.
When you express your opinions and feelings to him, he tends to get annoyed, and resistance is easier to form around you. It is natural and physiological for a man to be uncomfortable and even threatened by a woman who is expressing her needs, wants and desires. He’s trying to protect himself and his own feelings from being misunderstood by the woman he’s dating. He’s feeling overwhelmed by your demands even though you haven’t asked him to have sex with you. This is why he has a resistance to sex. So when you’re at a restaurant, or specified for a particular activity, and he’s not in the mood, don’t take it personally. He’s messing up a perfectly good evening, and is simply not interested in you. Well, although it was his way of distancing himself, he should be getting you to a phone so you can express your remorse and MajorOWplease.
Women need to understand that men are more sensitive than we often realize. Men perceive themselves to be the fairest creatures of creation. That’s why they tend to push hard to get what they want. A woman needs to recognize when a man’s attempts to play the macho man on the pull don’t work, especially when he plainly is not interested. If you’ve turned into a cold, selfish shrew, you need to simply check yourself, and see where you’ve gone wrong. If you’re wimpy and easily fooled, you won’t get very far. Why yes, you can make yourself irresistible to men. And when you do, the likelihood is he won’t even realize that you’re not interested. He’ll just see you as the woman who just didn’t have the nerve to say no.
I was single for many years. I never quite figured out why I attracted the wrong kind of man.Then, one day, I gave up. After all, I had everything going for me, except that special something.So, I began to observe. I wanted to make sure I could appeal to a man on my level, if I was to ever meet that special man who would make me happy for the rest of my life.What I discovered was that, although I may have been working full time, I was actually spending very little time with my own family. And that’s why I attracted the wrong type of man. I became immediately and totally aware of this fact when I started dating the wrong men. Had my mother been around, my behavior would have never shown up.
My realization of this gave me a perfect opportunity to learn exactly what I needed to know to make a difference in my love life.The first thing I knew for sure was that I needed to create the sort of dating relationship with my daughter that I would want to have again some day. Now, this is not an extremely demanding or high pressure situation.We don’t always get what we want in our dating relationships, so there is no pressure to be perfect, but there are certain things that will make you different from the norm so that you can create a special bond with her.
It was something about my daughter that made me think this way, and it was also a moment that made me realize completely new things about myself.So, if you have a child, give each situation a good evaluation. Ask yourself, is this the right relationship for you. Or are you settling simply for the sake of settling.
