When you are in a rush to get from friend to girlfriend or to deepen your commitment to someone, talk to them about sex. Though it is important to talk about sex in a relationship it is not enough to be in a rush. You should talk to them about love. You should be able to express love for her in a way that she can believe and feel. Sometimes people take a long time to decide that they truly love someone. Maybe they are not sure how they really feel about someone. Sometimes there are mixed signals.
Sometimes the one person you talk to might not want to express anything personal at all. Later on if you press to say anything then this person becomes defensive. They will say, “No, not at this time.” Okay, well keep talking to them about sex. After awhile they will want to be more open. It is up to you if you believe this person. Sometimes people want to say they love you but they really do not.
If someone is dating, even if you don’t want to date them but like them, it is important to talk about sex. If you want to make sure this person is really yours and does not want to just date you have to talk about sex. Many people get mixed signals about whether or not you should have sex. They will say that they want you to be honest and just tell the truth, but at the same time, they may not want you to be so open. It is up to you to figure out what to do. If you don’t want to be so open and that is really important to you, say so. If your partner is willing to be just as honest, that is wonderful, but here is what you can do, don’t answer the phone every time they call and tell them that you are busy. If you do want to see them, pick a different time to do it.
When you do start to talk about sex that can progress very quickly. If you are looking for a serious relationship you will need to talk about it early on in the relationship. If you don’t talk about sex, you can move on much faster than you might think. Often people avoid talking about sex because they don’t want to be rushed. Don’t be that person! If you are out and your partner suggests that you get some dinner out, don’t say that you don’t want to. Suggest some restaurants you like and that they give you a great meal. Don’t leave your partner wondering what you are up against. If you do that, you can expect that you will end up being the one who gets left out.
For those who are in relationships or who are dating, sex is very important. You need to talk about it early on. However, if it is meant to be, if you are going to have a fruitful relationship, it will develop naturally. It will not be defined as the thing you are hoping for. Make sure to include your partner in the decision making process. Allow them to fight for your affection. Listen to their needs and desires. Don’t run off to bed hoping that it will lead to more, but allow them to enjoy a satisfying sex life.
If you want to make sure that you are in a relationship that is going to last then you have to talk about sex. Make sure that you are both comfortable with your needs and desires and that they are met. Communicate with your lover and discuss things that are making you uncomfortable. Feel your pain, but don’t push too much. You need to be patient and enjoy the process.
