A sauna is the best place to relax after a hard day’s work. Not many people go to the bar to unwind or relax, thus go the sauna to dry off and relax. Unfortunately not many men know how to properly approach a woman at the bar and ask her for a dance or a drink.
This is strange since generally men can just go directly to a female at a bar and ask her to dance. In many cases the direct approach is a disaster. It doesn’t matter how practiced you are, getting a dance from a stranger is a new challenge. You will very likely get a drink thrown at you or worse get a drink thrown at her. You also stand the risk of having the drink thrown at you after you do get her so watch out for those 2 common mistakes: standing with feet shoulder width apart and not making eye contact.
Showing up with your feet shoulder width apart is the most common mistake men make in their approach. This is also a sign of nervousness. By doing this you are displaying weakness in a very bad way. Women are not attracted to weak men, the only thing a weak man displays in public is weakness in his wallet. That’s it, nothing more. If you do not like the way say hello to a girl, just move on to the next girl, you don’t need to spend the rest of your life trying to learn how to dance salsa orstrike a conversation with her. Avoiding eye contact is also a sign of weakness, especially if you are not looking the girl in the eyes. Looking at a girl is the single most important factor in a successful approach. Once you are talking to a girl, you should look her directly in the eyes, not at her breasts or on the sides of your vision.
The other common mistake men make in the approach is talking too fast. Anyone who talks fast shows insecurity and weakness. You are supposed to be a confident man, not a person who can’t even finish reading a new article in The New York Times. Slow down your speech. A man doesn’t have to be like a demure mouse, pause for a beat, look at the woman and then speak. If you cannot effectively speak to a woman, your odds in approaching and talking to woman are slim to none.
Finally, if you are a guy that does not know how to approach a woman, learn some tricks. There is a trick to almost every conversation. Most men think that, if they do not have something good to say, they have lost. This is wrong. The result in the end is the woman will lose interest and walk away. A woman is looking for a conversation so she can talk to you, not a listener so she can talk to you, you both can have a laugh and then she is gone. An attractive woman is not a conversational person, she wants to be spoken to, she has a great story to tell, have a stimulating conversation in the future, it is fun for her. Shy men should, by all means, know how to approach a woman and talk to her, it is in fact, the easiest or best approach for most men.
Decide on what approach you are going to take. The worst thing you can do when you can not get on a topic that interest her, is to talk about the fact you don’t know anything about the place, city, food, environment, music, sport, or anything that comes to mind because she might notice how dull and haughty you are, in a moment, instead, choose a topic that is interesting to her, one that requires active participation, instead of just chatting, there is no chance you can talk to her on his arm if you cannot participate in the conversation you see light-heartedly participate. When she does not get to talk to you at all, it means she is a dull girl, just like the others!
