This is the most frequently asked question among men today. Keep reading to find out the real answer.
Let’s begin with a definition. Before anything, keep in mind that ‘rejection’ and ‘rejecting’ are two very different things. A man who is rejected by a woman is someone who was rejected by a woman’s love. The man who was rejected was said to have been ‘rejected’ by the woman’s heart, while the one who was rejected by her lips was said to have been ‘rejected’ by her love.
How can this be possible then? How can a man who is never rejected by women be ‘rejected’ by women? Well, here’s the basic answer. A man who is rejected by women still has his heart in the right place. The problem is that the one who is rejected by women still has the capacity to give love. The one who was rejected was said to have had all the love that he needed from a woman, but instead he was denied. The one who was denied had to cultivate love within his own heart first before he was finally ready to give this love to the woman who rejected him.
But of course, just like a non-rejecting man, a man who is rejected by women still has the capacity to give love. He still has the capacity to feel love, to give love and to wonderful even reject love all together. rejection was never supposed to dampen a man’s deep longing and yearning for love. If anything, it is these feelings which make men succeed in love. These feelings make them want to succeed more because they already know that failure, sooner or later, hurts everyone, including men.
But what about those who claim that they’ve never felt any pain in the past, good or bad? Those who’ve done attempts to have a relationship with women and are probably mostly failures? What about those who claim that they can easily move on from relationship to relationship, that eventually they’ll find their one true love and live happily ever after? Forget about them, because not only does love eventually come to everyone, but also love touches all the wounds in a man’s heart, making him understand and accept that love is alms.
Many years after my divorce, I tried to look for meaning in life. Many other people who have felt that ‘love is enough’ during their troubled and failed relationship wondered if it was really. So many articles were written to help men realize that a relationship is not the preserving of a manhood, but the growth and refining of a manhood. But at the end of the day, I realized that all I had in my heart was love and I traced the meaning of my life to my love.
I spent so many years feeling that I had no control over my life. I talked a lot, mostly to my wife, about my fears. I was afraid of being rejected. I was afraid of being rejected by a woman more experienced than I was. It was my way of finding the reason for my failures in relationships.
If you want to succeed in your relationships, don’t look for meaning, forget about your past failures and be more open hearted. A couple of women I was able to have a relationship with really liked me and were really proud of me because I was such a good listener and despite all my pains, I was able listen and give them advice. I was a good listener because I was able to relate to them. I was able to think about what they felt at that very moment and if they had sent me an abrupt goodbye note, I would have lost all the precious moments I shared with them.
And because I was such a good listener and was open with my wife about my fears and I was able to clearly understand how she responded to them, she eventually felt comfortable enough to share with me her fears as well. We are able to share our problems with each other. There is no way we can stay out of each other’s arms. And because we have opened our hearts, we can heal and grow together. For that matter, a couple of women I have been able to date and have had long conversations with, found me to be a good listener and a good person. Once she shared her fears with me, I was able to fully respond to them and helped her get over them. We have been more than eager to share our hopes and dreams with each other to the fullest.
Women are so interesting. There is so much to say about them, and yet so much they know nothing about. Women are so strange. Well, you can never get enough of them, you need to know their secrets.
