For some men it is easy to start a conversation with a woman, but doing so is not necessarily the way to go. For others you may find yourself struggling because you get nervous and don’t know how to approach a woman to talk to her. What you need to do is, after you find a woman you would like to talk to, think about the best ways to approach her with a message that will be meaningful and from a guy who truly cares for her. The following are a few tips you can start using right away to help you start a conversation with a woman.
First, think about a couple of topics you would like to discuss with the woman and start with those ones. This can be however your first conversation with her. However, choose which ones you want to get started with.
For instance, if you want to bring up the fact that you are a dating professional, then feel free to start out by telling her that you are a busy person with plenty of responsibilities, and that you can only afford to make time for her. Seriously, that is an order-you shouldn’t even entertain the idea of her being interested in you as a boyfriend. As you talk to her, pay special attention to how she reacts to your topics, which topics to avoid and which ones you should be careful with. By the same token, she will be able to tell you if you are truly interested in her or not. Remember, it is never about what you say first, but the how you say it.
Once you are comfortable with the topic that you setup, move on to other topics. The key is to keep her guessing so that she doesn’t know what you will bring up next, or what you are about to do. This will ensure that the conversation stays going and that you spend more time together.
When you are conversing with a woman, there is one trait that will almost guarantee you to keep the conversation going is through asking questions. The key to asking the right questions is to find out as much information about her as you can, and dig even deeper by finding the details.
This means that you won’t feel like you have to pull out some Magic tongue twister that may sound silly to some. That is not the way to go about it. Instead, simply go with the flow, notice her reaction to your questions and give her the opportunity to elaborate on whatever she has just answered. This will not only keep the conversation flowing, but it will also allow you to be aware of what to talk about if you decide you want to ask her on a date.
It’s as simple as that, really. If you think you can just walk up to a stranger, even if that stranger happens to be a woman, and ask her for a date then realize that may not be such a good idea. Instead, consider asking her some questions that are related to the situation you are in. In other words, instead of asking her where she is from, why don’t you take that into account? Or how she is doing today? If you can’t think of any questions related to your current setting then think about what you are doing next and ask her a question about that.
This sounds a bit silly, but this really helps you. First, you can avoid boring her with long lists of questions. Second, you can read her body language and mood as you ask these questions so you can tell if she is in the right mood or not. Most importantly, you can also ask these questions in a casual, natural way. Meaning, keep them separated from the conversation and don’t sound like you are reading her a list of questions to pass it back.
Now, back to the idea of asking these questions from the “No To” column, you can probably see how they are very beneficial to your relationship and you will not have to worry about constantly having to answer them. By asking about her work, you can also tell her that you are a busy person, capable of giving her an important and interesting job. Of course, since you are the one that has to stay behind to take care of her, you will be the one to take charge of the Topics in your conversation, thus, the most important and interesting chats you will have with her are those in which you are the only man involved.
