This may seem like such a simple question that should come with a simple answer; in actuality it is quite complicated.
There’s direct verbal ways of asking a guy if he’s interested in you; also relying on body language can aid in this regard as well. But asking a guy if he’s interested in you is on of the most difficult aspects of dating for most women. Men aren’t as good at voicing such feelings as women; he often needs to be encouraged through his own actions. In order to help you through this process of asking him if he’s still interested in you, follow these tips.
Be subtle.It is never good to directly ask him if he still is interested in you or not. He may consider you a good friend and thus be unlikely to ask you out for a date; or he simply is too shy to even kiss you or to tell you how he feels.
Instead of directly asking him, it is better to take a more indirect approach. When trying to ask him if he’s still interested in you, subtlety is the key. Don’t show your disinterest. Instead, show you don’t care. If the two of you have been going steady for some time and he hasn’t tried to kiss you; don’t give him a thought. Maybe he’s not interested in you anymore. You can easily square off with other men when he’s not around.
Instead of showing disinterest, try to subtly flirt with other guys so he’ll be prompted to make a move. He may want to date you but is just too afraid to do so. This is when other men would come into play.
Take it slow.It’s alright to be excited when your boyfriend shows a little interest. But when the guy is too aggressive, then you may lose him for good. Never show eagerness; all you should do is to take things one step at a time.
Never bad mouth.When your boyfriend insists on paying the bill and disrespects you in any manner, then you should do the same. Even though your boyfriend may have bad given his temper, make sure that you’re not at each other’s throats to begin with. Bad mouthing your ex may come across as extremely one-sided and lead to negative repercussions.
Instead, when your boyfriend gets to speak, make sure that you give him all your nicest efforts. Even if he lacks the affection he used to give you, make sure that you show him that you are still willing to put up with him-in most cases, at least.
Never be rude or negative.Even when you’re tempted to yell at him because of the choice that you’ve made, make sure that you don’t. Guys have an extremely hard time dealing with emotions, and would rather not deal with any negative emotions. If you show that you are bitter, he will distances himself from you. Make things easy for him.
Always be kind.When your boyfriend is doing something for you like fixing your car or getting you your favorite flavors of coffee, make sure that you express your appreciation. This can be greatly appreciated by your boyfriend. If he has reasons on his side, be gracious about it. Do not talk about it every time that something is wrong. Avoid petty whining. Sometimes, a guy wants company to whine about his problems, so give him that.
We think some women are naggers-well, maybe not all of them but some included a lot in this list. If you think that guys hate naggers, be sure to leave it at home or you’ll be listed in their teenage books as Most displeased Of All. There are just things that men don’t want to hear about. Hence, to ensure that no one unpleasant turns up when you want to discuss something, always err on the side of being polite and friendly.
Wear a perfume.When you want to talk something over, wear a perfume of course. You may ask about normal things about how he’s doing, how his day was, etc… But don’t forget to let them know that you are looking forward to discuss whatever issue you’re going to talk about.
Be yourself.Make sure that he’ll be interested in your discussion. Remember that a guy would hit on a girl who’s an interesting and engaging talker. Avoid being artificial at all costs. Talk the way you speak (that is, with a eager tone and nice volume in your voice).
Set the right mood.In order to get his attention, make sure that you know what he wants to talk about and that you set the right tone. Make very good eye-to-eye contact and speak in a pleasing tone. Be polite as you speak and he will eventually relax with his interest in you.
