I know how it goes, youured and hopeful and all that crap that most of us deal with every day. You start to day dream and fantasize about the good times you shared together and how everything is going to turn out. Then reality bites, in the form of an landmark argument, your bad broke dude shows up, and it all goes down like a rushed lunch at lunchtime. I know it’s not fun. I bet you, you don’t want to and probably NEVER want to do this again.
I was once in your shoes, trust me. For a long time I couldn’t get past the fact that my damn ego wouldn’t let me handle the arguments easily. You could argue for about ten minutes straight before it felt like someone was going to open the biggest wallet in the world and walk out. I got sick and tired of being classified as some uncouthfill guy. Guys would basically come over to my house to stay the night and I didn’t know what to do. Should I make them dinner? Should I leave them alone to play? Or should I be brave and tell them a naked lie so they’ll be the one to tell their friends and I’ll be fine?
I was never one to cry or bitch, only to holler, or scream and shout and pretty much just get my point across loud and clear, which in my opinion, was pretty stupid. I’m not one to huff and puff over anything and everything and I consider myself to be pretty old school. Real humor and a long heel, just get straight to the point. I never ever cuss and I’ve watched enough TV to know that if you start fussing and talking around a subject, it gets more complicated and less easy. However, I never knew at the time WHAT I should say to get my point across. Apparently, when most people think of nagging, it brings to mind some guy on Family Matters.
I’ll never forget the day that my then boyfriend and I were simply chilling out and talking, minding our own business and talking, and I look up and there is this look on his face and his body language and I just knew there was no way in hell he was going to propose. I had just spent almost 8 months brain-washing myself into thinking that a proposal was in the works, and that the universe was forcing me to see it happen. We were just relaxing and feeding our dogs at the local park. You can’t blame a person for not having at least a half-meant idea in their head. I was convinced that being 50% something special was in the bag. Boy was I wrong.
Now, if you’re thinking that the universe is out to get you, you better start reconsidering your current Tennessee custody. For every gorgeous lady that walks through that door, you will have at least 2 that will walk out at the first decent attempt. It’s a lonely statistic, but true.
While you’re at it, though, it’s also very important to know that NEVER underestimate the power of WILLINGNESS to listen to the universe and accept its choices. Very simple as that may sound, often times if we DON’T do something, the universe will just assume that it never NEEDS us at all.
So many of us lead demanding, unfulfilling lives and employees are considered the ” laziest” people in the world. While at that, it’s not being considered an essential service that we provide. We get in there, and then we quit, or don’t bother showing up, or we become so fed up that we decide to do something (and anything!) else. It’s the same thing, folks. We become lazy. We quit.
But here’s the thing – when you quit (or decide to), it is the end of the song. When you are tricking yourself into “service mode” and decide it’s not important, IHEARDevery other sign, for example: he couldn’t contact you, or he forgot your birthday, or he said he doesn’t feel this Identical Way about you, you are simply suffering from an extremely rare form of ME-TC (“itchwellness consciousness”), Simple, I feel terrible. Simple. But distinguishing it can be difficult, so here are the four links to consider, Please note, I am not talking about “feelings,” ” bruises,” “letdowns” or “post- breakup psychodramas.”
1. The distinction is that a lady “takes a break” from constructively interacting with her significant other. The break can last from a few days to a few weeks, but it requires boundaries to sustain so that it does not creep up to “maybe the end of the world.”
2. This is one of the most intense periods of your life and of her.
