A big part of the attraction and dating process for women is the initial impression. Most women think that they have to be perfect or god’s gift to attract their one true love, but this is absolutely wrong. The truth is there are several common mistakes that you want to avoid when trying to impress the man you ultimately want, at least from a conversational perspective.
Poor Spelling and Grammar
When you see a woman interact with another woman, the writing is always on the wall. When he is talking to you, that is exactly what you will see. He only hopes you didn’t get stage eluding and accidentally using the wrong word – which is a sure way to turn off any man listening in.
By trying to be well-read and well-spoken, you are actually confusing yourself, especially if you are trying to talk to a guy about sports, business or politics. Men are very attracted to women who can express themselves well, but you also have to be careful. Outsiders can come up with the wrong names for your school and your apartment, even if you learn them by heart.
Insensitivity
Men want to be respected just as much as women do, but if you shove it in your face and call him a prick, then you will make your dating life a very miserable experience. Stop using the terms ‘you know’, ‘like’, and ‘ misunderstanding’ in the conversation; wait for him to ask you exactly what it is you said so that you can word your response.
You don’t have to completely ignore his vocabulary while you are talking, but you also don’t want to use the phrases, ‘I don’t think you’re very comfortable with me,’ or ‘let’s not Seven Seconds leadership.’ These are all excellent conversation starters, but they will make him run for the hills if you have bad intentions.
Bad Choice 2: Accusing Him of Any Wrongdoing
This one goes without saying, but regardless of how awful this one behavior is, you can’t make it okay with him if you are accusing him of doing anything wrong while you are dating him.
Asking for a breakup in this situation will result in a short-lived relationship, but one that is doomed from the start. This one also happens to fizzle out quickly. If you make this one simple turn off, then the relationship is all but doomed.
Insensitivity combined with anonymity makes for the perfect storm that makes its user extremely susceptible to a lot of pain.
Of course, this kind of situation isn’t sexeless, but until you destroy the overall cloud that is you, then a lot of men will avoid you.
Bad Choice 3: Comparing Him to Your Ex
Aside from the fact that doing so is entirely unattractive to most men, doing just that while you are in a dating relationship is a huge mistake.
Men keep their ex’s to themselves, to avoid any potential future enemies, and as such, you are doing the very thing that they avoid doing by communicating that potential flaw.
Look at it from his perspective for a minute. Would he really want to deal with the person who was so quick to criticize your ex in front of a new guy? No. But aside from the fact that it is unnecessary and pointless to have this conversation with a guy, it just speaks volumes about your personality traits.
Good Choice 3: Showing a potential flaw that isn’t there
While men do have a virtually unlimited array of flaws, the most desired man indeed has at least one major flaw he can relate with. And no, this isn’t it.
It’s better to show effort, and sincerity, about really learning about his flaws and accepting them. Why? Because men are forgiving of just about any behavior characteristic aside from that of “Mr. Bad Choice”.
Instead of making him look petty he will in turn have a lot of respect for you. There’s just no way around that fact when you are viewed as too sensitive and/or immature in a very large group of women.
Bad Choice 4: Lying About Something Big
While some women are the worst culprits, everyone cheats at something. And if someone cheats on you when you are in a serious relationship, you can almost always correct the problem, right?
But when you lie about something personal, like a new guy or your new found love, you have already screwed up big time. Believe it or not, most people don’t like people who like to lie. You don’t need to tell everything you think is important about your new love to his new girlfriend. Why would he care? And for most guys who aren’t emotionally related, they won’t find it out and you could damage your chances of a future mate.
