Winning back your ex-girlfriend takes time and patience. It is not just that time things don’t happen the way you want, but you are not exactly hurting your ex-girlfriend immediately. So let us go through the steps to win back your ex-girlfriend.
Step 1: Come Clean about your Honest Mistake.
confess what you have done in a healthy relationship. Once you have open heart to fix your mistakes, this is the time you need to tell your ex-girlfriend about it. This is also the time to tell about your intentions of trying to win back your ex-girlfriend.
Step 2: Ask for For More Understanding.
List out the things both of you love doing together and why you think you love them. List out the characteristics both of you love and dislike about each other. You can also list out the things that you think would make your ex-girlfriend happy in a relationship. Once you have gotten things clear like this, this is the time to talk about ‘the other issue’. Remember that this is not a time to fight. This is the time to talk about the good things-never the bad ones. Remember that this is a time to friendship and getting to know each other.
Step 3: Set the Relationship Schedule.
Both of you would want to have a life outside of your relationship. Is it possible for you to get another job? What about studies? You can also start on the process of getting your ex-girlfriend back by planning something for the two of you to do besides the break up. Think of a special date, a romantic event or a night out. Make it something both of you will enjoy. You can even ask her friends to help you plan it or attend it with you.
Step 4: Be Apologetic.
Obviously, you say no to your ex-girlfriend because you love her. But you also say yes to the idea of friendship or the possibility of picking up the broken pieces and rebuilding the friendship. This is also the time to tell her how you are sorry because you are not a heart breaker, a bad guy, a bully or a jerk. If you did wrong in the relationship with your ex-girlfriend, just say “I’m sorry. I’m also sorry for the pain you were causing for your friends and for other people.”
Step 5: Leave Her Alone.
It is highly recommended that you break off all modes of communication with your ex-girlfriend to allow her to think. The weekends are the ideal time for you to heal because you don’t need to converse with her and she doesn’t need to converse with you-yet. It’s the perfect time for you to just enjoy the moments of your friendship and let everything fall into place when it will happen naturally.
Step 6: Gain Perspective.
Now, if you still love your ex-girlfriend deeply but you think that you can never have her back, then think about the breakup not as a loss but as a gain. By gaining perspective, you will notice more clearly what went wrong. You will also notice more clearly that you were also at fault since you were at fault when you didn’t tell her the truth and later you broke up. Once you gain perspective, you will also learn more about yourself, about why your ex-girlfriend left and what were your constant mistakes.
Both of your mistakes in the relationship could have been the reason why you are still broken up even after you have a reconciliation. So ask yourself again why did you break up in the first place. If you truly think that your ex-girlfriend is also as crazy about you as you are about her, then don’t give up on her and don’t regret about your actions. Regretting the things you’ve done will only make matters worse. If you think that you are a different person now compared to you were a few months ago, then you are more likely to succeed in getting your ex-girlfriend back.
Winning Your Ex-girlfriend Back – Successfully tries to win her back in a courtship manner.
Gaining perspective: since this is the time to think things through
Getting a fresh new perspective: from all the events that have happened in your life since the breakup
Not resigning to the loss of your ex-girlfriend
Not blaming yourself for the break-up. She dumped you, remember that.
The more you blame yourself the more unresolved the issues are.
Make more constructive statements. Avoid saying regret things as this only creates more problems.
Give her time to recover from the break-up. Do not chase her.
Make yourself available to her but maintain your dignity. No doubt it would hurt her if she sees you begging near her door.
Keep in touch but don’t get back with her too quickly.
